The steps to an Internet Sexual Predator….
September 2, 2006 7 Comments
| Stages of a Internet Sexual Preditor – Do you recognize any of these behaviors? |
| The Internet sexual predator is usually a male but current studies indicate that up to 6% are female. They come from all social, economic and racial backgrounds and are usually between the ages of 13-70. The few things they all have in common is that they have perfected their skill in selecting victims who will remain silent, have advanced techniques for avoiding law enforcement detection and their goal is to have sex with a kid.There are over 400,000 registered sex offenders in the US alone and it has been estimated that 70% of them surf the Internet. This of course does not count the ones whose offense did not qualify them for registration, the ones who pleaded guilty to another crime, or the ones that have never been caught.Chat rooms are where 90% of the first contacts are made between a suspected sex offender and a young person. The names of these chat rooms can range in something as generic as Kansas1 to Dads4SexyDaughters and other names that are much more graphic than most people can imagine. From there the conversation quickly moves to a private instant message, then to the telephone, then to postal mail and then to the face-to-face meeting where the sexual abuse incident occurs. There are specific phases that the suspected child molester will go through in his victim selection process. These steps can take place over just a few days or it can take several months but the eventual goal is to lure a young person to a personal meeting where he can involve the young person in sexual acts for his own gratification.Victim Selection During this phase, the potential child molester makes contact with the young person. He then verifies all of the information the young person has placed in his or her profile. He does this by asking the kid questions and by piecing together other information he finds on the Internet. When the kid gives out his last name, name of school and the name of the city or town where he lives, the predator then goes to online map sites, school sites and directories to obtain as much information as possible.Survey of Family Dynamics This is the phase where the potential child molester learns how well the young person is supervised, who the others are that live in the household and what the habits of the family may be. The predator will usually ask if the child lives with both parents or has any siblings. Then he’ll inquire about how and what time the kid gets home from school. He will then inquire about whether or not the kid is alone during the say while parents work and even asks who checks the mail. Stage 2 Introduction to Secrecy The dialog between the young person and potential child molester usually becomes very sexually explicit and often includes step-by-step masturbation lessons. Introduction to Adult Materials and Child Pornography The child may be encouraged to take sexually explicit photos of himself or herself and send them to the potential child molester. The kid can also be encouraged to perform sexual acts on his or her Web cam for the potential child molester. Stage 3 Offline Contact The potential child molester is likely to be sending gifts to the child at this point. They may be arriving at the kid’s home or they may be sent “general delivery” so that they can be picked up at the post office. I’ve seen gifts ranging from stuffed animals, games and jewelry to condoms, lingerie, and adult toys. The Face-to-Face Meeting Stage 4 Child molesters will often use toll free numbers, send prepaid phone cards, or cell phones for kids to use when contacting them. |
Brock Purviance used every step of this list, as if he wrote it himself. He was not remorseful and showed no signs that he understood what he did was inappropriate or criminal.
hi,
Whish you good luck!
good site
Thank you, I hope all parents will read these steps and be looking for the signs…
Once a predator comes into your life, you can move on, but it is never forgotten. I pray Brock Purviane gets everything he has coming to him in the Texas Prison. Predators have no idea of what it is like to be a victim, until they become a victim.
I pray by the time he gets out, he has intimate knowledge of what if feels like to be a victim, so that he will never create another victim!!
Parents remain vigilant.
I agree with what others have wrote, your writing some great articles, keep it up!
Just wanted to let you know that the title of this blog: “Mother’s Against Internet Sexual Predators” should actually be: “Mothers Against Internet Sexual Predators”…notice no apostrophe in Mothers – it’s not needed and incorrectly used. Don’t take this as offensive by me commenting – this is a great site and I just feel like it should attempt perfection…
Thank you, I am always willing to hear feedback :0) You will notice I did take your advice and thank you for taking the time to leave a message.
My name is Keith Smith. I was abducted, beaten and raped by a stranger. It wasn’t a neighbor, a coach, a relative, a family friend or teacher. It was a recidivist pedophile predator who spent time in prison for previous sex crimes; an animal hunting for victims in the quiet suburbs of Lincoln, Rhode Island.
I was able to identify the guy and the car he was driving. He was arrested and indicted but never went to trial. His trial never took place because he was brutally beaten to death in Providence before his court date. 34 years later, no one has ever been charged with the crime.
In the time between the night of my assault and the night he was murdered, I lived in fear. I was afraid he was still around town. Afraid he was looking for me. Afraid he would track me down and kill me. The fear didn’t go away when he was murdered. Although he was no longer a threat, the simple life and innocence of a 14-year-old boy was gone forever. Carefree childhood thoughts replaced with the unrelenting realization that my world wasn’t a safe place. My peace shattered by a horrific criminal act of sexual violence.
Over the past 34 years, I’ve been haunted by horrible, recurring memories of what he did to me. He visits me in my sleep. There have been dreams–nightmares actually–dozens of them, sweat inducing, yelling-in-my-sleep nightmares filled with images and emotions as real as they were when it actually happened. It doesn’t get easier over time. Long dead, he still visits me, silently sneaking up from out of nowhere when I least expect it. From the grave, he sits by my side on the couch every time the evening news reports a child abduction or sex crime. I don’t watch America’s Most Wanted or Law and Order SVU, because the stories are a catalyst, triggering long suppressed emotions, feelings, memories, fear and horror. Real life horror stories rip painful suppressed memories out from where they hide, from that recessed place in my brain that stores dark, dangerous, horrible memories. It happened when William Bonin confessed to abducting, raping and murdering 14 boys in California; when Jesse Timmendequas raped and murdered Megan Kanka in New Jersey; when Ben Ownby, missing for four days, and Shawn Hornbeck, missing for four years, were recovered in Missouri.
Despite what happened that night and the constant reminders that continue to haunt me years later, I wouldn’t change what happened. The animal that attacked me was a serial predator, a violent pedophile trolling my neighborhood in Lincoln, Rhode Island looking for young boys. He beat me, raped me, and I stayed alive. I lived to see him arrested, indicted and murdered. It might not have turned out this way if he had grabbed one of my friends or another kid from my neighborhood. Perhaps he’d still be alive. Perhaps there would be dozens of more victims and perhaps he would have progressed to the point of silencing his victims by murdering them.
Out of fear, shame and guilt, I’ve been silent for over three decades, not sharing with anyone the story of what happened to me. No more. The silence has to end. What happened to me wasn’t my fault. The fear, the shame, the guilt have to go. It’s time to stop keeping this secret from the people closest to me, people I care about, people I love, my long-time friends and my family. It’s time to speak out to raise public awareness of male sexual assault, to let other survivors know that they’re not alone and to help survivors of rape and violent crime understand that the emotion, fear and memories that may still haunt them are not uncommon to those of us who have shared a similar experience.
My novel, Men in My Town, was inspired by these actual events. Men in My Town is available now at http://www.Amazon.com
For those who suffer in silence, I hope my story brings some comfort, strength, peace and hope.
For additional information, please visit the Men in My Town blog at http://www.meninmytown.wordpress.com
Keith,
First I would like to say thank you for telling your story. There are no words to express my deepest sorrow for the pain you have endured. I pray you have chosen to get counseling. For my child and myself it has been a God send. We are healing and if Brock Purviance would just sit his butt in prison and stop dragging us to court each year, we could heal even quicker.
The second thing I have to say… You are safe, this horrible man can not hurt you. The dreams are not real, YOU are real. Please seek help to banish him from your dreams as well. You are a courageous man. I pray your story will show other families that children are vulnerable, and should be protected.
I can not say I am sorry that your predator is dead. I hope he rotts in hell for enternity the same as I pray will happen to Brock. Predators do not know what it is to be a victim, until they become a victim. There is no cure for pedophilia only the illusion that there is. None of these animals should ever be let loose on society ever again.
I will keep you in my prayers that the pain you are suffering will ease and control of your life will be clearly back in your hands with the help of God.
God bless and remain Vigilant!